You And Me We Used To Be Together Every Day Together Always I Really Feel That I'm Losin' My Best Friend I Cant Believe This Could Be The End It Looks As Though You're Lettin' Go And If Its Real Well I Don't Want To Know Don't Speak I Know Just What You're Sayin' So Please Don't Tell Me Cause It Hurts Don't Speak I Know What You're Thinkin' I Don't Need Your Reasons Don't Tell Me Cause It Hurts Our Memories Well They Can Be Inviting But Some Are Altogether Mighty Frighting As We Die Both You And I With My Head In My Hands I Sit And Cry
Gwen Stefani
Don't Speak 1995
ETHICS:
Some folks just need a swift kick in the A$$ every now and then. At one of my part time jobs, writing is on the wall, this particular person barked orders at me. My reaction went something like this,"Wait a second. The proper recognition would be a hello and how are you. And only then politely asking WOULD YOU PLEASE have a look at the dish washer. After all, We Are All Humans Here."
Two of the witnessing co-workers were shocked. They both confronted me later that nobody has ever resisted this person's demanding attitude and how they couldn't believe that I wasn't fired. My response to them was, "I am thankful for the paycheck but I am no Phuc-N Dog." Needless to say, I pulled apart the dish washer, fixed the issue by simply removing and cleaning built up scum, and then what do you know, It Works.
GRAMMY NIGHT:
So I am walking Jane and couldn't believe my eyes. Someone very easy on the eyes from way back when comes walking towards Jane and I. They still have a smoking hot body and haven't missed a beat after all these years. They clearly projected a shocked/mesmerizing response when making eye contact with me and motor mouthed away like crazy. What blew their little marbles, I lost mine years ago, were my questions that related back to the last interaction with one another. They said," You remembered that?!?!" I almost said, " Well Yes, I DO Listen."
One of the many topics covered during our short walk that day was music. They explained that now they live alone and asked if I would be up for dinner and watching the Grammy's? "What Shall I Bring?" We walked while conforming times and Jane & I floated back to the trail head. I turned left and they headed towards the Parking Lot as if we hadn't missed a step in time.
Back Story Here!! I was one of the many Produce Managers for a Mom & Pop Organic Grocery Store and this person used to bring their two kids in. I would cut up fresh fruit for them to try, basically distracting the two little ones in my department so they could quickly shop. Smiles were always exchanged before heading up to the register. NOTHING MORE. They had a partner at that time and both of them participated in two hobbies that interested me. Hints; The You Remembered Comment
As you could only imagine, I was excited. Way flipping nervous. What do I wear?? What's To Pushy?? Are these appetizers overkill?? Do I show up 5 minutes early or 5 minutes late?? Do fire off a text inquiring if they need anything?? Why am I treating this like the first time?? Phuc-N-A
Within minutes of arriving, this person isn't for me. When I walked in with dishes in my hand, I kid you not, they greeted me with, who says this, just throw those over there. The table they referred to was cluttered as all get out. I was so disappointed and immediately became judgmental of their lower vibrational language.
I mean, don't get me wrong, overall, we shared laughs and enjoyed each others company. They did tell lame stories during the award presentations which bothers me but all was friendly. Just would have been polite to wait for a commercial to tell me an unrelated who gives a rats story.
Then, it happened on the couch. They said to me, during an inappropriate time of course, I hated holding hands because our hands would get ALL sweaty. Now I probably should have let that go but I had to speak my truth.
I began to calmly explain how I believe how our hands and bare feet connect with the world. Walking and talking with fingers interlocked makes my day. In my model of the world, our right hand sends and our left hand receives information. I most likely rambled on about body work theories and hand held choices but I just couldn't wrap my head around how I went from thinking YES to Get Me The Phuc Out Of Here within a few hours time.
And for me, one of my many definitions of intimacy, which I refrained from sharing, starts with HANDS and/or LIPS. Together, thats a recipe of delight. Such as, I totally find comfort when having someone lay on top of me with their right hand and fingers intertwined with my left hand. Is that too much to ask???
WALKING:
Talk about freeing your mind. The longer days of daylight are singlehandedly marvelous for me. I haven't felt rushed to finish up with what I am working on/with to get the dogs out for a walk. I have time!! Like the reading fanatic Meredith Burgess in Twilight Zone. I Have Time Now. All The Time I Want. Thankfully, I don't need glasses, yet. YIKES
I have encountered one little problem with Jane these days. When she hears that distinct unlatching sound of the side gate, she goes completely ape Sh*T with excitement and its literally all I can do to get her leash attached to her 8 month old ( neck ) collar. Once we start walking, she is happy to walk. Not much of a puller and a really good walker. Its just a struggle for those first few moments. I have tried to sit in front of the gate, which drives her wildly crazy eyed. I spout off commands, pinned her to the ground once, but nothing really seems to work because she is so full of energy and so damn big. But like I say, once we are in motion, she is great to be around. Poor Girl
CYCLING:
For whatever reason, totally unmotivated. Whats Up With THAT?? My theory is that I have become a lazy driving useless American. Living with The Dude, I drive the interstate to my sunrise job. SUCKS. I only dislike driving for two reasons. #1 Cant stand watching impecunious selfish drivers. And why the Phuc do they throw trash out the window?? #2 Red Lights!! There is absolutely NO reason to speed in this town because you're stopping at the next intersection. Guaranteed
Anyway, not all that pleased with my mental state lately. I should be throughly enjoying daily 30 mile /50km bike rides these days. What is my deal?? Who has a size 13 / 47cm boot to put in my lazy A$$?? Now I need a swift kick for sure. Colorado is so beautiful and I am like a spoiled rotten child, don't wanna ride. With My Lip Sticking Out
GOALS:
- TRAVEL SAFE
- Hydrate And Stretch Out
- Remember To Water The Plants And Trees
- Enjoy The Moment
- Ride My Bike With Enthusiasm
Stay Strong And Smile,
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Dearest Travis,
ReplyDeleteYep, stay strong and smile. Enjoyed the video as your 17th viewer.
You sure sound a bit 'off'... Hope you soon find your grove back and enjoy bike rides once again!
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The country bike rides & dogs are always highlight for me when I stop by. Too bad the Grammy dinner was a wash-out.
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I've tried riding my bike to work in the warmer weather. Google maps even gives me a route off the main road (which would be sure death if I biked on it). But even pedalling through the neighborhoods between my house and my office, people speed, they blow through stop signs, and are texting. It bums me out that it's so dangerous! I may try it again this summer, though. Just because I'm determined like that.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry that things didn't work out with that woman, although it's good that you realized right away, right? It's a good thing you have lots to keep you busy and your job sounds so satisfying. After this past year, I have a whole new appreciation for my job.
Hang in there!
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...I do love snow, but now I'm happy to put it behind me. Many of my seeds have germinated and are potted, I'm moving on.
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Some things and people are best left as memories. That's quite some bike path. Enjoy the house sitting. It sounds like it is will be very nice and relaxing.
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You are braver than I am to drive in traffic like that. Loved the video.
ReplyDeleteIt is good you spoke up to the boss. Everyone deserves respect. Bosses shouldn’t be devoid of it.
Don’t give up on finding someone to share your life. That person is out there!
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Great video, I enjoyed it. Wouldn't care too much for riding in the city where the traffic is. It's great that you had the coversation with the boss. The boss needs to be respectable to others, I imagine he wouldn't care to be talked that way. You taught him a lesson that hopefully he will remember. Sorry to hear that meeting up with an old frined didn't go so well. The person you're looking for you haven't met yet so be patient, you're getting closer everyday day. :) Have a great week, Padre.
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Lovely time lapse video with apt music.
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I am amazed by how few people there are on that bike path! That must be so nice! I hope that you can have fun with riding your bike this week!
ReplyDeleteEnjoy the housesitting gig! That sounds great. I hope that Jane still gets to see you. Otherwise, she's going to be very sad.
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Sorry the date didn’t work out. Brave of you to speak your mind on that rude boss.
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Enjoyed the video and photos and it seems you have been rather busy.
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Don't Speak is such a classic. I remember when it first came out. Wonderful thoughts. I agree with you on insisting on common decency in regards to the person whose dish washer you fixed. I also understand your thoughts on the date. I think we should never compromise on what intimacy means to us. Everyone has the right to their own definition of intimacy. I read that some therapist said that you should write down things that are truly important to you in a relationship, it can be holding hands and going for walks together-anything... and that we should not be afraid to look for what we truly want in another person/partner.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful photos of nature. I believe cycling can be really freeing, especially cycling in nature. Good luck with the house sitting.
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Hello,
ReplyDeleteGreat collection of photos, the sound track on the video is perfect. I am glad you spoke up to your boss! Since I love dogs, they are always a highlight for me. Cute pups! Sorry the Grammy date did not work out, your soul mate is out there. Enjoy the house sitting and dog walking, that sounds like my kind of job. Take care, enjoy your day! Have a great new week!
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Too bad about the dinner. I really like your analogy about hands and energy. It reminded me of a quote: My right-hand is holding someone's hand that knows more than me. My left-hand is holding someone's hand that knows less than me. Thus both my hands for me to be. Or something like that. Maybe I should go try to look up the quote. Stay awesome!
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Beautiful winter this spring 😉!!!
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Very interesting post. Beautiful photos;)
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DeleteBeautiful pics: when winter is holding back but spring is winning over!
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Sorry the reuniting with the old friend didn't work out as well as hoped, life has a way of giving us lemons sometimes. Loved the video, you ride really fast. LOL
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The first song took me back to my years in NYC and every bodega I went into came out with a drink in a paper bag and a straw. So when I said I don't want the straw...dude bought slapped me. So I said but I like you taste in Music so he grinned.
ReplyDeleteOne of these days you will discover the secret to relationships but if you don't it really doesn't matter. Enjoyed.
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Yes, I agree that hands and feet connect us with the earth. My husband doesn't understand how I can walk around outside barefoot and I have to remind him there's something special about grounding.
ReplyDeleteSorry it didn't work out with your new friend, but hey, it makes for a good story now.
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Sad entry, are you OK?
ReplyDeleteHaha, I SO can relate, sadly.
Even if you don´t feel like dancing, I love this song, thank you, please, sorry, ...
And YAY, GOOD ON YOU (sorry for screaming... psssst). And such an easy task, oh, by golly! Even I could´ve done that (not that we have a dishwasher, that would be me and I´d simply take a shower...).
Sorry about that date. "Date". Scusi... Just throw it over?!
OK, I´ll measure my foot´s size.. nope not big enough. HOP ON ... that bike!
Great when people honor your work. I knew that feeling... Fun party-pic!
Can´t see your video this time, darn blogger.
Stay Strong And Smile and cheers
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Wow! Loved the video, perfect soundtrack, excellent shadows along the way especially over the bridge. That ride would have invigorated you right! So sorry that your evening didn't pan out as you had hoped but don't give up, the right person is still out there. It sounds to me like most of the time you're pretty sweet about doing your own thing, having time to yourself, am I right? As for No 3 on your list I always say if I was a tree or plant I'd like to be in my garden, I never forget to water them 😉 Chin up Padre, the best is still to come!
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Phenomenal winter captures ❤
ReplyDeleteTotally - That Was From Our Last Significant Winter Storm - Sure Could Use Another Four Or Five Of Those Real Soon
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We also had a short relapse of winter on the first day of spring;) Fortunately, spring is already in the air!
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I actually dreamed that I had long been able to experience firsthand how cold winter is because in my country there is no winter.
ReplyDeleteYour photos are always impressive, brother.
Cheers.
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Sucg soothening pictures for the eyes and the mind. I am glad you stay always so active. I am sure you will accomplish all your goals.
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